Wednesday, December 1, 2010


I am near puking with nerves/excitement, which I will hereafter refer to as nervescitement. (I totally made that word up, it doesn't exist on Google. Seriously.)

I am not antisocial so much as asocial. I'm pretty withdrawn, and I rarely seek company, which is a cycle that feeds upon itself. People know this about me, and so they don't invite me to things. I don't get invited to things, so I miss out on the social opportunity and continue to be unsure of myself in company, or at least I feel that way. Apparently I'm perfectly normal, despite the tension constantly coursing through my body.

But let's skip the potential diversion into Freud's theories and my childhood.

I don't date, which is mostly situational. Family still occasionally tell me they know someone, and I roll my eyes and they say that I should meet this person, then never mention it again or tell me later that it wouldn't have worked anyway. I'm talking extended family though, not the sibling and cousin who still occasionally threaten to buy me an hour's "entertainment" from someone of questionable moral character. I know, I could've said hooker, but I am completely in love with metaphors.

So when a friend texted me that they knew someone, I rolled my eyes. I was given basic information that this mystery person likes Harry Potter, classic rock, and the movie Labyrinth, and I gave the typical mhm, yeah, whatever type of response. I was told to look this person up on Facebook. Yeah, sure. I was told to text this person and then given a number.

Hold the phone, there. Text?

Texting is not intimidating. It's something I do regularly, and it gives me time to proofread before speaking and, if necessary, to censor myself. When you're face-to-face with a stranger and you're supposed to be making small-talk, when they give you a two-word answer, you can't go do something else for five minutes, then scroll through previous conversation for something amusing to refer back to. Or, at least, I can't.

I'm a master at dropping conversation when it's with someone I don't know well. Then, once I open up, I give mini-speeches like these. My sister rolls her eyes at my stories, as though she doesn't tell them, too. My friends, who I eventually realize have gone mostly silent, with the occasional witty comment, apparently enjoy the show. "It's cute."

But back on topic. Since texting doesn't intimidate me, I did it. I texted and was witty and charming and all the things I am online, with the buffer of the computer screen and the time to phrase things perfectly. The moment things began to slow, I said I had to go, leaving before the conversation went stale.

So after two days of this, I've been text-asked to go see Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows this weekend. My mental conversation with myself went something like this:

me1: You don't know this person and you're going somewhere with them?!
me2: Yeah, that's what dates are for. DUH. You'll be perfectly safe.
me1: Unless they're a serial killer!
me2: They mod a Christian website, and a sweet, personable friend referred you. They've been screened.
me1: Meh. But what if I make a total nerd of myself?
me2: They like Potter, Star Wars, Star Trek, and Lord of the Rings. I think you're safe.
me1: Omg, they're a nerd. I'm so out of their league.
me2: You have recently decided that cosplay looks like fun, you hypocrite.
me1: Touché. But what if I get shy and come across as a snob, which you know happens a lot.
me2: Deathly Hallows.
me1: But...
me2: Deathly. Hallows.
me1: *can think of no further arguments*

So I'm going out. On a date. With someone I don't know. I won't tell you how long it's been since I went on anything remotely like a date (aside from the time I was tricked into a date, but that's another story). We may put away childish things, but the second someone from the opposite sex is involved, it's high school all over again.

OMG I AM GOING ON A DATE. WTF AM I THINKING? Do I need to clean my apartment? How long should I hide all of this from my family/daughter? What if I fall back into serial monogamy? (Which, for me, was insta-attachment, two years, then BAM!Over. Twice.) OMG I HAVE A FRIGGIN TWIN BED. Which is the most ridiculous thought of all, considering my personality, my values, this person's values as a good Christian, and that we haven't even met yet.

me1: OMG! I don't even go to church! I'm practically a heathen! I'm not worthy!
me2: Calm the hell down! Not all Christians think everyone but them is a godless sinner!
me1: But what if they expect me to go to Church?!
me2: OMG SHUT UP!!!
me1: *whimper*

So, making a mountain out of a molehill, but it's an adventure, right? :p


  1. Oh-Em-Gee! You ARE so cute!

    1. If nothing else you get to go see Deathly Hallows Part I and get to talk about it and spoil it for all those that haven't seen it yet.

    2. I love that you're freaking out about your twin bed. At least I know I'm not the only one worrying about my bed when I'm not even planning on letting the other person see my upstairs, let alone my bedroom.

    3. If they are a true Christian they won't think you're horrible for not going to church. Sure, you might find yourself converted to a church-going-christian before marriage to them, but they won't shun you for it. SHUN THE NON-BELIEVER! SHHHHHUUUUUNNNNNNNNN! (Wow, I just seriously quoted candy mountain?!?!)

    4. It's a date. Regardless of those people that say the whole "dating is practice for marriage" psycho counselling crap, it's just one night. One night that even if it turns out the person is weird, or a nerd, or completely wrong for you, you'll at least have ammunition for another blog post right?

    5. I've really been doing too many outlines lately for school, I just realized I totally numbered this. At least I didn't use Roman Numerals. And yes, I just deleted and reposted this comment because I didn't want to look like a fool with a typo. I'm sure you'll find one somewhere anyway. *Le Sigh*

  2. 1. I love you and you completely rule.

    2. Here I thought I'd been making so many lists it was rubbing off on you. ;)

    3. I also love that in point 3 you mentioned what would happen if we got married, and in 4 you dissed that very line of thinking.

  3. Yeah I didn't state point #3 very clearly, shunning was stuck in my head. Yeah, I blame Charlie. I meant that Christians tend to try to marry Christians (that whole evenly yoked bit from the bible) but that would be a long way off, and you shouldn't shunned you when you meet. Cause yeah, I totally stick by point #4.